When people hurts you as they are bound to, its good to know how to cope......hope this helps...

By Kemi Mobuse - Monday, March 26, 2018

It can be hard to let the things that other people do to you slide especially when it seems as if you have become target practice for them to learn how to treat other people badly. Most times you are tempted to lay a trap for them to fall into so that you can wreak your vengeance on them. Other times, you just want to say hurtful things to them so that they can feel the way you do because it is beginning to seem like your silence or deliberate ignorance of the payback rules makes you seem like too much a coward. So you lash back once, and it feels good. 

The truth is that while it might feel empowering and strong at first, soon enough you get tired of always paying back but you are also tired of being walked upon besides it does feel good to put them in their place.

Being the better person starts with one incident. When you say no to the urge to hurt someone as much as they hurt you even once, you will discover that filling your mind with negative thoughts full of anger and revenge takes up all the space in your mind for good and positive thoughts. Keeping this in mind, you would find it very easy to live life for yourself instead of living it for other people and trying to please them at the cost of your own happiness. Get yourself a paper and write down all the things you want to do for yourself and then proceed to do it. Live to please yourself….. and learn these things just like I have…

I’m slowly learning that I don’t have to hurt those who hurt me. I’m slowly learning that maybe the ultimate sign of maturity is walking away instead of getting even.

I’m slowly learning that the energy it takes to react to every bad thing that happens to you drains you and stops you from seeing the other good things in life.

I’m slowly learning that I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and I won’t be able to get everyone to treat me the way I want to be treated and that’s okay. I’m slowly learning that trying so hard to ‘win’ anyone is just a waste of time and energy and it fills you with nothing but emptiness.

I’m slowly learning that not reacting doesn’t mean I’m okay with things, it just means I’m choosing to rise above it. I’m choosing to take the lesson it has served and learn from it I’m choosing to be the bigger person. I’m choosing my peace of mind because that’s what I truly need. I don’t need more drama. I don’t need people making me feel like I’m not good enough. I don’t need fights and arguments and fake connections.

I’m slowly learning that sometimes not saying anything at all says everything.

I’m slowly learning that reacting to things that upset you gives someone else power over your emotions You can’t control what others do but you can control how you respond, how you handle it, how you perceive it and how much of it you want to take personally.

I’m slowly learning that most of the time, these situations say nothing about you and a lot about the other person.

I’m slowly learning that maybe all these disappointments are just there to teach us how to love ourselves because that will be the armor and the shield we need against the people who try to bring us down. They will save us when people try to shake our confidence or when they try to make us feel like we’re worthless.

I’m slowly learning that even if I react, it won’t change anything, it won’t make people suddenly love and respect me, it won’t magically change their minds

Sometimes it’s better to just let things be, let people go, don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers and don’t expect people to understand where you’re coming from.

I’m slowly learning that life is better lived when you don’t center it on what’s happening around you and center it on what’s happening inside you instead.

Work on yourself and your inner peace and you’ll come to realize that not reacting to every little thing that bothers you is the first ingredient to living a happy and healthy life.

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