I heard my husband's voice for the first time, three years after my marriage.......My hearing journey continues

By Kemi Mobuse - Monday, September 11, 2017

I was privileged to share my hearing journey on a Facebook Group page called FIN. It is a women's advocate group, that every single woman would be happy to be a part of....Its another family worth having and home away from Home. After I posted my story, the response was tumultuous, amazingly positive and supportive....It felt like I have finally found my reason for going through the pain....To Inspire someone out there.

One good thing came out of this; I got approached by a lot of individuals; going through same issue, some by themselves, for others; it's their family member or relative. and this made my heart ache afresh and makes me more determined to renew my promise to launch my Foundation and NGO to deal with it all.

I have began to put the processes into place, and God helping me, it will come to light sooner than later....Amen....

so, back to the story.........


You see, I am hearing Challenge too, and though it was once a stigma, its now something I wear with pride, simply because, I am a better person partly because of that.

What caused my hearing Challenges, is something I will leave out for now...When the problem started manifesting in 1995 though, I became scared that, my life was over even before it began.....

I was the best student back then in my secondary school, always taking the first position, and i was more hated than loved because of it, this continued throughout my Jss1 - Jss3 days...suddenly one day, I noticed that, while the teacher was giving us dictation, which happens to be one of my best subject, I found it hard to catch what she said, I strained my ears, but all i could hear was a whooshing sound, like foaming water...then things went downhill from there, out of nowhere, I will feel myself shoved, pinched , and shouted at, I was told, they were trying to catch my attention, because i didn't hear them call me.at a point, someone will throw a stone at me, or it could be any object, all in the name of calling me, I was later nicknamed " Aditi Oloko" - (deaf boatman)... within me, I was dying silently, but I tried to be strong....I realized i had to work extra hard to maintain my first position, but alas i found myself at the second position for the first time ever...i became ill and I realized i needed to work extra hard....long story short, I had to become a recluse, I who was an active member of virtually all the clubs in the school, and I meant ALL, i had to start keeping to myself.....I was afraid to talk when in a group, but I strived very hard to keep put across an 'I don't care " attitude ,but in secret, I cry endlessly, I read more and more since all i hear in class is silence...I borne my pain alone....Till I eventually graduated....

Then comes my University days, I was determined, not to go through this journey alone, In Fact, during my registration days, My mother, God Bless her soul, followed me up and down, telling anyone who cares to listen, that I have hearing problem, egbami! I always wished the ground will just open up and swallow me up....but it never did...
Gradually I made Friends, Ibrahim Aminat TemitopeImana Jemmy UchejiAsiku Cynthia OiwohOppy OgunsEbony Teddyamong others, made my stay in school very easy, after hearing my story, they allowed me to copy their notes and Ibrahim Aminat Temitope was my special tutor, but these special women, were my core women even till date, they protected me and took the pains to understand me.....I met my amazing sister Gbemisola Omojola in my 2nd year...Infact, she was among those friends who would have passed me by, because I came off as aloof and proud to her, not knowing that, that was a cover for what was ailing me...


I lost a lot of suitors and friends due to that as well, as I was seen as proud and aloof...my relationships back then were extremely complicated because of my ears, and I kept on getting heartbroken, one after the other, at a point, I decided to end my life, but Thank God, for the timely intervention of Bolanle Sebastian Ilori's husband..God saved me....then school was over...and there i was, single and "deaf"..

I never gave up, because it was never an option...I had my B.sc and graduated with 2.1 and started working immediately after service....Estate Management....in a customer relation department...my challenges were apparent and many, but I kept at it and did what I could and I managed through the rest. several heartbreaks later, I met my sweetheart courtesy of Gbemisola Omojola, I told him the truth from the onset, infact i listed it out...wo! I am hard of hearing, and I am not here to play, no sex till wedding night if we made it that far, been there, done that, but if you get to know me, you will like me sha....lol! short story, we got married 11 months after...


All through the courtship period, I could only lipread my husband, I never heard his voice, on the day of the proposal, husby was still spewing English, werin concern me? In my mind, I was like, Oga, see hand joor, make you do quick and put ring, so me too can pose and show off, hehe! I failed to mention that; out of desperation, I nearly got married before then, to a womanizer, a wife beater, an emotional blackmailer among others, this guy took advantage of my hearing challenge, and calls women in my presence, secure in the fact, that i couldn't hear him, he forgot what i lacked in sound, I made up for in perception, I eventually caught him and called off the engagement, three days to the Introduction and oh boy! am i glad I did.

On the day of my court wedding, I had to read my vows off a paper instead of repeating after the official, but on the day of my white wedding.....God Rose up for me and proved Himself God, though I was given a paper to read from, instead, I heard the pastor clearly....I heard the song, the sermon, everything and at the reception, my friends decided to shield me from disgrace and told me to follow their dance steps, but guess what? Once I stepped into the hall, I heard again...i Danced to the beat, that my husby threw his jacket away at a point, to match up with me.....everyone was shocked and they thought I used hearing aids, but then...I had none to even use...

Fast Forward, to having my first baby, I prayed that I will hear, when I push him out, but no such luck, I had to sleep most times, with one hand on his back, to know when he moves, and on more than one occasion, the poor boy has cried himself tired simply because I was in a deep sleep and didn't hear him, those days were hard,but I never lost faith....

I have been told to get a cochlea Implant, because aids weren't working with me again, but the price, the cheapest being around 4 million, scared me off ....but I know, I had no choice when my first born clocked one and started school, I took myself back to God, and told Him to make me answer my name "OLUWAKEMI" again and prove Himself,moneywise...my bill was estimated to around 5 million plus...God did and the surgery was a success to the Glory of God...

I heard my husband's voice for the first time in Feb 2016, three years after our marriage and my son, a year after I gave birth to him...but Thank God, for where I am today, who I have become and still aspiring to become...I heard the voice of my second born clearly when I had him and today I speak very clearly on the phone.. ..


Today! I stand tall, with my titles....A beautiful daughter of God, a woman, a wife, a mother, an estate facility manager and a blogger...... Sisters in the house, irrespective of whatever situation we find ourselves, always remember, God cannot give us more burden than we can carry...after i regained my hearing and i started my blog, and i was interviewed by Adenike Oyetunde of cool Fm..Listen here...I was shocked to see she is a cancer survivor and an amputee....yet she soldiers on......it goes to shows giving up is never an option...I hope my story inspired you...

I have started compiling the list of those people who have approached me regarding this hearing issues, please feel free to send me a mail and let me know how we can help.

Meanwhile, Its noteworthy that I have been sharing my hearing journey in more details before this, read them here part 1part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5, part 6, part 7, part 8, part 9, part 10, part 11, part 12

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8 comments

  1. Am speechless woman.God is able forever.Hallelujah ! !! !!!.....70 times.Thanking him advance .Amen.

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  2. Am speechless woman.God is able forever.Hallelujah ! !! !!!.....70 times.Thanking him advance .Amen.

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  3. God is always faithful.. Inspiring testimony.. God bless you sis

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  4. so so proud of you Kemi. You are amazing and God has not even started with you! xxx

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    1. Awwwwwww!!!!I just saw this, Thank You soooo much my auntie, my special person...kisses

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