Learn from my story too...Say No to Violence, No to early Grave, True Love is not Violent, Be Wise!

By Kemi Mobuse - Monday, May 09, 2016


Ronke Bewaji Shonde was a beautiful daughter of a wonderful family, she had vision for her life and wished to enjoy the beauty of marriage. 

She got married to the man who ought to love and protect her, unfortunately, she's lying in the pool of her own blood while the husband is at large. 

Domestic violence has claimed many lives, the beautiful mother of two little children is the latest victim.

I repeat, no marriage is worth the life of any individual! Stop posing in pictures with a beast! Who are you pretending for? At the expense of your precious life? Don't hide domestic violence, shout for help! 

Love is never cruel, it is not blind, and it is definitely not Violent. And for the record, there is absolutely nothing like a soulmate or someone , just some"one" destined for you.


Your partner is whoever you present to God, and if God ordains it, so be it.

I foolishly nearly tied myself, to a man some years ago, because i was desperate to get married, we were even Engaged. Despite the fact that, at a point in the relationship, i realized that, his outburst are the cruelest of cruel, he is a professional liar and a serial cheater, i stayed. The breaking point for me, was when he attempted to hit me with a bucket of water, because he was angry. The knife i drew on him, stopped him in his tracks.

I was torn, about breaking off the engagement, everyone at work, knew i was engaged, so was everyone in the family, i even remembered, the friends who saw my pictures on Social media, i was really confused and scared. The love was very fleeting and i was hating him, day by day. My Parents decided to fix the Intro date, i even had to cough up the money for the clothes for us to wear for Intro, his excuse? He has not been paid.

I eventually went on my knees to God, and prayed and cried that, He should strengthen me, Life has been hard on me, very hard and this is supposed to be my forever Joy. he should give me the strength to break it off, as i am sure, this is not His Will for me.

That weekend was supposed to be our Introduction Date. On that Monday Morning, I called My Mom. "Mummy, I am no longer going ahead with the Intro".

Mummy, was silent, for some seconds, then replied" Are you Sure? I said I am. And she said, No problem.

She will handle the family, and she Did.

I called the guy then, and broke it off. He told me, I am done for, and no one in his right mind, will Marry me. He said a lot of foul words, that, got my ears ringing. I just cut off him off mid sentence and threw off the ring.

At work, i was very scared, but i knew i had to tell the people who mattered, even if they snickered behind me. And as time went on, I healed. I got into a relationship soon after, but it didn't culminate into marriage, but I for one, at that point in time, wasn't  after marriage, Just fun.

To the Glory of God,a year after i broke off that Engagement, i got engaged, to my now Husband, and we will be celebrating our third wedding anniversary Next month by His Grace.

SO, Please Ladies, No marriage, or relationship is worth your tears, a bruised face, unhappiness or even Death.

What will be the fate of the two lovely children she left behind?
Only time will tell!
I'm deeply pained by this horrible death that could have been averted, but I pray that God will open the eyes of many individuals in abusive relationships to avoid tragedies like this one.

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2 comments

  1. Terrible Things are happening everyday........what a sad way to die

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